“I’m fat!” my friend keeps saying to us all. As usual, we all stare at her more than gorgeous face and her nice figure. “You are not fat!” we kept saying to her. What she was talking about, I had no idea. She wasn’t the only one. Another friend of mine asked whether I thought she was fat. What?! Of course, I told her she was being totally weird and that she’s cute, which is actually really TRUE! So, it got me thinking. What is the problem here? These pretty girls have worries about their looks, what about other people who really are ‘externally challenged’?
So, here’s my theory on why and how to overcome it. Who can blame you for feeling less than perfect when everyday you are bombarded with images of flawless, thin models with perfect skin and body? There are also countless advertisements for dieting products, which press upon you how great, you can look and feel if you could lose those extra kilos. But before you assume you got your figure figured and jump into a crash diet, learn these facts about body shape and diets. Stop comparing Do you find yourself body parts with models in magazines? “Oh if only I had her hips,” you might wish. But remember that models are helped by professional make-up, flattering light and re-touching to remove any blemishes before the magazine goes to print.
If you had all that help, you’d look great too. Accept your body shape Everyone has his or her own unique body shape, which is pre-determined by your genes. Children with one large parent have a 40% chance of being large, while children with two heavy parents have an 80% chance of being that size also. So while a good diet and exercise can trim your figure, it can’t change it totally. Your body is still changing In your teen years, your body will go through a lot of changes. You are growing taller, developing curves and loosing some of that baby fat. So, don’t let a little flab or a flat chest freak you out. Give your body time to develop. More than looks How you look is only one aspect of you. What about the rest of the great qualities you posses? A wonderful personality, sense of humor and talent are just as important.
Looks can change and wilt with age, but these qualities are for life! Enhance your asset Everyone has beautiful, outstanding features. Yours could be your big eyes, long legs or sexy lips. Learn how to enhance and draw attention to these features with clothes, make-up and hairstyle. Enjoy the compliments Do you tend to brush aside compliments like when someone says how great you look in an outfit? They are just being nice, you might think. Learn to accept compliments graciously and trust that they are true. In turn, find something positive to say about other people. Ignore the insults We all know people who make it their job to put other people down. If you have friend like this, ignore them. Nothing good comes out comes out their mouth anyway so switch them off. So, there it is. At least, that’s what I think. But you’ve got to admit that at least some if not all that what I said is true. So, why not follow my advice and feel good about yourself! Sham, signing out.
