what guys want

I’ve been single for almost 8 months now. I hate being single… I miss being one-half of a couple… Sometimes I feel so alone. I do have friends but I miss having a ‘special someone’. I miss having that special feeling. The feeling of being in love… Loving someone is not hard for me; it’s everything before that is the problem. Finding someone you like, then getting to know the person, then getting their number and etc. But is this all worth while? What if, in the end, they don’t like you the way that you like them?“I like you as a friend…” the most dreaded words. And I’ve been there, A LOT. Man… if I had a dollar for every time I get that… So, let me get this straight, they say that I’m a good person, who’s funny and cool but they just see me as a friend?The question that’s been driving me crazy is what do girls want? What kind of guy are they looking for? What do girls look for in a guy? What am I missing? Someday, I hope, I find the answer but today I’m here to answer all the girls who’ve been asking the same question. What do guys want?What do guys look for in a girl? Looks? Personality? Or a little bit of both? Before I get started I would like to clarify that when I say “guys” I mean boys who are looking for a proper relationship, not the jerks that only care about looks. They don’t apply here.Guys do look for a good-looking girl. Now what constitutes “looking good” you might ask. It varies from the “girl next door” to “tomboyish” look and so on. It all depends on the guy’s taste. But what I’m sure of is that guys don’t really want a girl that’s too pretty. Why? Well, most guys think that they don’t have a chance with great-looking girls and they think that it’s very hard work to keep a pretty girl. Guys have to protect his girl from hungry ‘predators’. Some might consider going out with an ugly girl because the ugly girl would treat him well because she is afraid to lose him. Boy, talk about low self-esteem.What about personality? For normal people like us, a great personality is very important. Having a sense of humor is important because guys like a gal with a sense of humor. Brains are sexy. It really is great to have someone who can spar with you on a mental level. But I beg of you ladies, please don’t beat us silly if you are smarter than us; most guys have rather fragile egos.Guys also desire someone who is on the same frequency. You want to tell a joke that your partner will be able to get and vice versa. I seriously doubt there is much replay value in a relationship when one of the partners is as dense as a wall.I hate to admit this but guys do look for a good-looking girl. But girls please don’t despair; don’t pick up the Yellow Pages and go look for a plastic surgeon. Let me plead my case. For the average-looking guys who’re looking for a relationship, how a girl looks factors in the initial attraction. So, when we see a girl whom we find attractive, we are interested in finding more about her and so you do. Then depending on how nice her personality is, the relationship can develop from there.Ultimately, most guys agree that looks do count in the initial attraction but it’s the personality that keeps us coming back for more. It might sound cliché but it’s true – looks will fade. In a couple of decades, we’ll all look like preserved prunes anyway. But personality…now, that’s for life.I hope that solves some questions that you girls have. You may not agree to it but this is just what I think. Now, if only I know what you girls are looking for.later dayz

soulmate

I was asked by my friend once whether I believed in soul mates or not. That night, it got me thinking so much that I couldn’t sleep. Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be... Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction... Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life."

I totally agree to that. I believe that when you meet your soul mate, this person will have an instantaneous effect on you. A soul mate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you want to catch your breath. With but a single glance they lesson your burden and but a smile, warms your heart. You will feel a sense of connection (affinity) with this person. They will touch you so deeply on so many levels, you will want to share your inner most secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel like almost like a God. Once you have met your soul mate for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.I believe that we tend to attract people or partners to us who compliment ourselves in some way. In attracting these people or partners, we attract exactly what we need in order to grow. What makes a Soul mate relationship so special is the ability to immediately and intimately connect on a much deeper level; we perceive in the other that which we do not have, that which we are lacking. Through this type of symbiotic relationship, something wonderful happens. Through this relationship we confront or become more aware of our limitations. This kind of *joining* transforms the other, and vice versa. I thought for a while and then answered "Yes. I believe in soul mates."
But if he had asked me that a few months before, I would have definitely have answered, "No. Who would believe in such stupid crap? Only naive and foolish people believe in that shit." In the beginning of the year, I was madly in love. My world was perfect. Everything made sense. She was my reason for being in the world. I had found my soul mate. She was my other half... well, at least I thought so...Everything was perfect; everything was awesome until that day when I found out she was seeing someone else... I couldn't believe what I saw with my own two eyes. My heart slowly tore apart as I watched her being intimate with her other. For a long while after I broke up with her, I went into a state of depression. I thought I wouldn't get over her. I loved her so much. How could my soul mate do that to me!

"Everything needs time... This, too, shall pass... "These words got me through that very tough time. Now, I'm stronger as a person and it made me more cautious with people. And it made me realize that she wasn't my soul mate. A soul mate would never hurt you. So, my soul mate is still out there.

Dear soul mate,I long for your love. I long for your hugs and sweet kisses. I long for your presence. I don't know where you are. I don't know what you're doing right now. I don't know what's taking so long for us to meet. But until that special day comes, I want you to know that I love you with all my heart and soul... Good night to you, my special someone...

19th bday

My very own blog... I saw my friend's blog and seemed kind of interesting to have a blog. You type out anything and let people who are interested read it. So, I decided to have a blog of my own. Here it is. My very own blog. There's no particular theme to it. I just want to share my life experience and my views on anything and on life. I want to share my opinions with anyone who wants to read it. So here it, my blog. Enjoy.

My birthday is coming up. Birthdays... it is the end of a chapter and the beginning of a new one in a book we call life. For me, this upcoming birthday is the last chapter of one of the most important time in my life. For it is my 19th birthday. My last year of being a teenager. My last year before going to the realm of adulthood. I should be happy cause it is, of course, my birthday, right? Well, on the contrary, I'm not totally happy. Honestly, I don't want to grow up. I know you're thinking that I'm crazy or something but hear me out first. I love all this. I love being me right now. I love being a kid. I love life right now. Most of all, I love being a teenager. I love what we teenagers do. All, I do is hang out with my friends, play video games, goof around and just have fun. But, this'll be my last year of being a teenager and I am not looking forward to leaving that behind.

I looked at my dad's old pictures. He looked stylish (way back then when it was considered stylish) and he was a troublemaker. He was like any other teenager, way back then or now. Now, he's not wild. He's busy with work and has no interests other than his work. So, what happened? Where did the young him go? He looked like a fun guy. Fun, that's the word. Adults are no fun. That's what scares me. Will I have the same fate? will i be boring too? Will I be this grumpy old guy who complains about how teenagers dress and how their loud music could wake up the dead? I don't want to be that.

But there are some good things about being a pre-adult. It's the start of being independent. You'll have to depend on yourself. I'll be responsible for me. No more nagging from my parents. I can do whatever I want. One important thing, money. I'll be working and I am so looking forward to that. I want to earn money. I want to experience working. I've had enough of studying and being in school. Home works, assignments, teachers and studying; I'm so glad I won't have to worry about that anymore. I'll miss all the fun times I had though... I'll miss not worrying about anything but having fun. I'll miss being a teenager. But, at the same time, I'm looking forward to growing up. I'm looking forward to working and earning my own money. '’m looking forward to actually live. So, this birthday will be a bitter sweet birthday for me. But, there's one thing that I'm sure of; I'll have as much fun as I can possibly have. Take my word for it.

sham, signing off.